Raising kids is the most difficult thing to do in motherhood. These tips have been scientifically and psychologically proven to help shape and mold your kids as they grow up.
Make Time To Bond
Psychologist say that you need to give your kid care and respect in order to get care and respect from them. The best time to do this is when you’re engaging in fun activities together. Make sure that you allot time in a week to bond with your kids. Doing this builds one on one time with your kids on a weekly basis that will make them feel like they are of importance to you.
Treat the time you set aside to bond with your kids just like a meeting at work; this shouldn’t be something you should easily set aside for something else. This way, the family and workmates will get used to it being an essential part of your weekly schedule and it can happen more regularly. You can also practice this on a daily basis by asking your kids what the best part of their day was to make them think about how they feel exactly about the day. Listen well when they respond.
Activities that you can make your kids feel important could be as simple bed time story telling or playing sports.
Tell Them Their Value
Many children do not know how much they mean to their parents. Be sure to let them know exactly how important you are to them so that they have tangible words to hold on to when they are confused about how relevant they are. Say it regularly so that will always feel safe and loved.
Be a Role Model
Ethical values and behavior of your child is usually learned by observation and the people they observe the most is you. For this reason, you must be what you want them to be. Take an introspective look at yourself; are you practicing the honesty, care, and equality that you want your child to portray?
The most important values you can teach your kids is to humility, self-awareness, and honesty because it teaches the kids that nobody is perfect and that mistakes should be owned so that one can work towards fixing their flaws. Be sure to set this example for them.
Let Them Help and Be Grateful
By showing your kids the effects of kind actions, they will grow up to become more compassionate and generous. To do this on a daily basis, allow them to help you around the house in a certain daily task. This could be as simple as cleaning when they are young or as advanced as taking calls for them when they are older. Whatever it is you choose to give them responsibility for, be sure to always thank them. This will show them that their actions made someone else’s life better.
Help Them Deal With Negativity
The ability to care could be hindered by feelings of anger, hatred, shame, and envy. At a young age, these feelings could be difficult to comprehend and the reaction of kids to these feelings could be misguided. Be the guidance they need in order for them to be able to solve any internal conflicts with their friends. This type of self-analysis will allow them to be compassionate and empathic. It also helps them the be able to process negative feelings properly.
Raising kids is a psychological battle and even the smallest nuances that they observe can shape the way they behave. It is important that you lead by example and show them how to practice the values that you want to see in them.