My mother and I have a very active relationship. Why? Because we always argue about small things and after arguing we end up laughing at ourselves and making fun of each others reaction when we argue. I was really lucky enough to have Thess as my Mama. I am an only child so I don’t have competition when it comes to her attention.
We mostly argue about my eldest son since he’s living with her. We have a different perspective on how we will bring up a gay child. I was more on the relax side and say that he can do this and do that on the other hand, my mom is really a typical mom more restrictions and more like a real Mama. This sometimes confuses my son to which he would follow. So the tension sometimes started from that simple action.
I love her to death and we always end up laughing at things that we do stupidly special when we do argue. Our bond is so strong that sometimes we end up texting or chatting even if we are still not talking to each other. I am never also talking behind her back even if I talk to other people about her, you would think how was that? She always knows what I talked about her and sometimes we even plan about it. We are so devious about people who are so happy to see us quarrel or argue. That’s why we sometimes planned about it and laugh at them when they go blabber mouthing it.
I hate her. I don’t literally hate her, but sometimes I feel like she’s always on my son’s side which is so unusual to everybody. Sometimes I forget that Ahia and I are mother and son. So I end up jealous of Ahia when my mom would reason for him, which is what I really admired from my mom, I know she will fight for my son especially those people who criticize gay people.
At the end of the day she’s always been my mother and no other person can replace her. Many people may not understand us, but we don’t care. She would always tell me
Wala sila pakialam sa atin. Ito tayo at yun sila. Baka idol nila tayo kaya ganun?
People may condemn us about our relationship, but they don’t know the story behind it and I am so grateful for having her and I know she’s really proud of what I am now and what will I be in the future. How about you? Do you have a love – hate relationship with your mother?
*all photos are not mine